In Charge of the Bachelorette Party? Follow This Planning Checklist!

In Charge of the Bachelorette Party? Follow This Planning Checklist!

Bridesmaids get your calendars out! Follow this bachelorette party planning guide for a seamless bridal bash.  At the Stiletto Gym we host hundreds of bachelorette parties every year and know a thing or two about the bachelorette party!

Calling all bridesmaids! Whether you're planning a laid-back night in or an action-packed weekend trip, below is your go-to checklist to help you organize an unforgettable party. Feel free to adjust the time frames and personalize the details according to your bachelorette party style.  

Three (or more) Months Before the party!

  • Ask the bride what she wants—and wants to avoid—for her bachelorette party. Will it be cocktails, drag queen shows, pole dancing, or male strippers? A quiet weekend getaway? A living room lingerie exchange? Get the scoop from the guest of honor and go from there.
  • Establish her comfort levels. If she's envisioning a calmer gathering, go over all of your options together, from a winery trip to a luxe spa day. If she can't wait to break the rules a bit, get her to define exactly what that means. Remember, while you want her to let loose, you don't want to embarrass her or freak her out.
  • Set the date. Some groups celebrate a few months prior to the wedding, while others opt for a weekend night about one to two weeks before. If members of the bridal party come from all over and can only convene a few days before, that timing works too. Much of it depends on the schedule and availability of the bridesmaids.
  • Create the guest list.
  • Make hotel reservations.
  • Send a save-the-date email to gauge any major conflicts among invitees. If you're partying far away, include specific details so everyone is on the same page and can plan accordingly.

Two Months Before

  • Brainstorm possible game plans, activities, and gifts with the group (make it a surprise for the bride, if you want). 
  • If the party will take place at a hot spot or out of town, make reservations, order tickets, and, book your pole party,
  • Think about your transportation arrangements. Alcohol and bachelorette parties often go hand in hand, so be responsible and plan ahead.

One Month Before

  • Send invitations—emailing, texting, and calling works too. Make sure your invitation informs guests the cost of the festivities (and be sure to specify how much). Decide if you will be collecting all of the money or if each girl will be responsible for paying for each activity. 
  • If you're going with a classic plan, devise the itinerary. Start out with dinner at a fun restaurant, and map out all the establishments you want to hit, plus what time you'll be stopping in. Make all necessary reservations, even at bars. And don't forget to ask about drink specials, group deals and bachelorette freebies.
  • If you're celebrating at home, help the divvy up responsibilities for refreshments and activities. Make a shopping list. Divide up to-dos among bridesmaids: games, decorations, food and drinks, music playlists and sleeping arrangements (if necessary).

One Week Before

  • This is the time to buy any bachelorette party accessories like a novelty veil or tiara, candy jewelry and any additional props, naughty or otherwise.
  • Make a list of the games you want to play with rules and how-tos (don't leave the game directions for when you're a few cocktails in). Customize and decorate written instructions however you want to, and keep them handy throughout the event.
  • If you're plotting a scavenger hunt, conspire with the group to make a list of tasks for the bride to complete.
  • Confirm RSVPs.
  • Confirm transportation arrangements.
  • Confirm any entertainment.

One Day Before

  • Debrief the bride (but it's definitely okay to keep some of the details a surprise).
  • Remind guests of the meeting place and time, reiterating the address. If there are several stops planned, name the second address too, for latecomers.
  • Reconfirm all reservations.
  • Get plenty of sleep.

If you would like for us to help you with a "Celebrate Sexy" Pole Party give us a call at 816-256-5040 and we will book you a party in our Kansas City Studio. Check out the website   If you would like to get the bride to be an unforgettable bridal gift check out our Polga in home fitness system.


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